Relationship researchers, like all good scientists, love jargon, and they’ve come up with a great term when it comes to psychological intimacy: “perceived partner responsiveness” or PPR.
PPR refers to the idea that you think your partner gets what you have to say, understands how you feel, knows your needs and is available to respond to you when you need support.
In other words, do you perceive that your partner is there for you?
There are many components that contribute to PPR, including taking time to truly listen to each other and to understand the other person’s point of view or feelings.
Good relationships hinge on a high degree of PPR.
My sense is that PPR is sort of like a bank account—if you take a lot of withdrawals without putting anything back into the account, you’ll be broke before long.
Couples need to find time together to invest in PPR. Make sure you continue to know your partner, that you continue to value him or her, and most of all, make sure that he or she feels valued and understood.